The Key To Lasting Happiness
In life, we human beings have an end goal: to live a life filled with love, purpose, success, freedom, more time and happiness.
But, we must first conquer happiness.
We need to be happy with what already is, what we have right now, and what our circumstances are in the present moment. We need to find happiness within ourselves.
Conquer happiness within and you’ll feel like you’ve won the lottery. You’ll give love to yourself and others. You will be able to find your life purpose or passion. It will be easier for you to acknowledge and celebrate your successes on a regular basis. You won’t feel like time is passing you by.
My mission is to encourage people, of all ages, to not wait on their dreams and to spread happiness. I want to share with you the key to happiness.
All it takes is understanding ‘THE 5 PRINCIPLES OF HAPPINESS’.
PS: You’ll be able to read more about how I’ve practiced these in my book “The Key to Happiness” being released September 21st.
Let’s have a look at each of them:
“Forgiving yourself and others will release you from the prison of the past.” – Louise Hay
Forgiveness comes in many forms. By that I mean we must find it in ourselves to forgive others and forgive ourselves. Forgiveness is not something we give to others, we give it to ourselves. Holding onto negative emotions and pain does not allow us to move forward. It doesn’t allow us to be HAPPY.
With an up and down relationship with my dad, it took me many years to forgive my dad for not being the dad I always wanted. Truth be told, had he been the dad I wanted I wouldn’t be the strong woman I am today. True forgiveness is not just in the words “I forgive you,” it is in letting go, and allowing the past remain in the past.
“It is only in adventure that some people succeed in knowing themselves – in finding themselves.” – Andre Gide
Self-awareness is a HUGE piece we are missing as human beings. We make it difficult on ourselves by not representing our authentic selves, speaking our truth and simply being alone to get to know ourselves.
We should know ourselves backwards and forwards.
Awareness is knowing when to slow down and take time for yourself. It is understanding that we have a choice, and choice allows us to create the reality we live in. It is not being afraid to make sacrifices so that we can live up to our potential.
Awareness is knowing when to close a chapter or door on a person, environment or career that is no longer serving you. Awareness is knowing who you are – strengths, weaknesses, core values and all.
Spending time alone, just with yourself is exactly how I managed to understand and know myself inside and out. And if you fear spending time alone, jump to the next principle and come back to this one after.
TIP: If you want to become more self-aware, our book summary of “The Six Pillars Of Self-Esteem” by Nathaniel Branden will guide you a big way!
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha
At the age of 10 I was already struggling with body image and lack of self confidence. 10. Years. Old. And I struggled until I was about 20 years old. 10 years.
Now, I look back and see a completely different person. I think about the generations after me and am blown away that the majority are in the exact same place.
We are not taught how to love ourselves, we are forced to paint a picture that we do. At a young age, I knew my worth and that I had a lot of love to offer, I just couldn’t look in the mirror and give myself that same love. For me personally, it took a healthy lifestyle change, not to lose weight, to find that love.
Loving myself took away a dark grey cloud that was stopping me from finding my purpose and belief in myself.
“One day you’ll wake up and there won’t be any more time left to do the things you’ve always wanted to do. Do it now.” – Paulo Coelho
In elementary school, one of my best friends had lost her grandparents and I remember saying to myself: “That will never happen to me”.
Death came and smacked me in the face when I lost my 20 year-old cousin. I was 12 at the time. In 2015, I lost my grandmother quite suddenly in the span of 4 days from a stroke.
It is then that I realized I needed to stop taking time for granted and start living.
It was in giving back to kids with special needs that I was taught more about being resilient. Spending time in Nicaragua to volunteer made me realize how fortunate I am back in Toronto. Only if we put ourselves in uncomfortable situations, we can truly appreciate what we have, and not take our lives for granted.
“The more you celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.” – Oprah Winfrey
After all is said and done, find things to celebrate in your life. Enjoy having breakfast with family. Memorialize going for a 5 km hike. Drink to your new promotion at work. Celebrate something new you tried. Celebrate life, celebrate YOUR life.
Life is way too short to not share our celebrations, share accomplishments, and share our stories.
The key to lasting happiness?
Forgive + Awareness + Self-Love + Gratitude + Celebration = HAPPINESS
I’m not saying I have all the answers, but this is a start. This is the themes in my life that I realized have helped me find true happiness. So with that, I want to spread more happiness to you. I want you to find your happiness and live your life to it’s potential. This life has a lot to offer if we have our arms open to it!
“You have one life, live it intensely, and search profoundly for happiness.” – Padre Fernando
If you want to fully absorb the principles of a happy life, Ashley-Ann Pereira is sharing her personal story of happiness in her brand new book: “The Key To Happiness”. It’s a guide to forgiving your past, finding who you are, and learning to love yourself. More importantly, you’ll understand what it means to be truly grateful, discover the importance of celebration and how to truly embrace your own story.
You can pre-order it on www.ashleyannpereira.com. Go get it!